- Matthew 7:1-5
Anthony DeMello, the Jesuit who was also a psychoanalyst, used to say that whenever we’re really mad at someone else, there’s something wrong with us, something we don’t want to face. We’re projecting.
Put this program into action, a thousand times: (a) identify the negative feelings in you; (b) understand that they are in you, not in the world, not in external reality; (c) do not see them as an essential part of “I”; these things come and go; (d) understand that when you change, everything changes.
This is what therapy is all about, and this is also what the gospel is all about. Jesus is telling us the same thing. He’s the great psychoanalyst. Don’t judge others, he’s saying, but turn inward. Don’t worry about the splinter in the eye of your friend. Worry about the log in your own.